If you are serious about building yourself and your character, knowing how to be socially bulletproof is crucial.
A lot of success in life will flow from your ability to interact with others and to network with other people.
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While some of us might like to think that we are islands and that we can go it alone, ultimately life is extremely more fulfilling and significant with the help of others.
Want to succeed in business? Having the right partners can create incredible opportunities.
If you want to have great experiences you need a range of different friends with different personalities and different skills.
If you want to develop your career, you need to be able to speak with business partners, employers and clients in a way that assists you to come across as impressive and desirable to work with.
The only problem is that not all of us are naturally so inclined.
Many of us are introverts and this makes it hard for us to speak in a large group without feeling self-conscious or to otherwise be engaging and dynamic. (By the way, have you tested how high is your self-esteem?)
So, what’s the answer to How to be Socially Bulletproof?
The aim here is to silence your inner critic.
There is one tool you can use to do this, it is something called CBT.
CBT stands for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which is a form of psychotherapeutic intervention that will enable you to change the way your mind works in particular situations.
This process starts with a certain amount of self-awareness which is called mindfulness.
Your objective is to learn what kinds of thoughts you have that makes it more frightening to speak in public or in groups.
For example, you might find that you are thinking things like everyone will laugh at me if I say something stupid or what if I stuffer and can’t get my words out?
As you can imagine, these thoughts aren’t exactly inspiring confidence and aren’t encouraging either.
Your job is to try and remove them from your mind entirely, which you do by using cognitive restructuring.
One part of the process is something called “thought challenging” which involves looking at these thoughts and then challenging them on grounds of accuracy and relevance.
For instance, will people really laugh at you?
Chances are that they won’t – most people are more polite than that.
And if people do laugh at you? Who cares anyway.
For starters, if they did not have the guts to stand up in front of a crowd to speak – you’re already better than they are and their opinion does not count anyway.
And then also if you look at how hard it is for a stand-up comedian to get his crowds to laugh, which he so desperately wants them to do and you’re just naturally able to let your crowd laugh, you already scored great points.
There is an even more powerful tool within cognitive restructuring though, which is hypothesis testing.
What you do with this is you look at the thought and you literally test to see if it’s true or not.
For instance, if you think people will laugh at you if you say something stupid, then try it and see for yourself. In other words, say something stupid and see what they do. What you’ll most likely find is that it might be a little awkward or maybe even not. Maybe its just the type of thing they needed to break the ice. Nothing bad happens.
You could even try stuttering on purpose or generally act strangely.
Not only will this help to disprove the things you were afraid of, but it can also help you to gradually become desensitized to the things you were afraid of.
What is the very best way to do this?
Take stand up comedy classes.
You’ll be required to go up on stage and make a fool or yourself regularly and soon you’ll realize that it really doesn’t matter what other people think.
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